My 2014 Personal Life Changes

I think I might sound and feel like the rest of you at this point in the new year. 2013 and my holiday flew by in a crazy flash. It almost feels as if it never happened and I can no longer transfer 'to do' list items into the 'next year' pile because here we are in the NEXT YEAR! Yikes! This year the blog turns five years old. How exciting and what a reminder of how time flies. 

Technically, I am taking this week off too as I am in dire need of a spring clean or shall I say summer / new year purge! I love tidying and organising (not cleaning) and I am excited to delve into cupboards, throw out, donate and rearrange. I feel as if 2014 really needs to be a different year, one in which I make all the positive changes needed. I will feel more prepared with a clean home and office to back me up. I believe in resolutions, but I like to work on them from an attitude change point of view. Some of this year's changes and life updates include:

Balance: Work takes over at times (usually always) and some parts of my life suffer especially when it comes to healthy meals and exercise. Two things I actually really enjoy. This year I have to kick my own butt out the door and away from the computer and ever increasing emails and go for a walk or run more often. I also really need to look after my health - mental and physical.

Better Bedtimes: I am quite good at not taking my work to bed in the physical sense. It's a laptop free zone, but that doesn't mean my brain listens to that rule. It just keeps ticking and it gets worse the later it gets. This year I have to dedicate certain evenings to work and others to an early night's rest. There will be several things that contribute to this - for example balancing my workload, saying no to certain things and delegating. Sounds easy, but the reality is slightly more challenging.

Entertain More: Once I get in the work zone all else stands on the sidelines (as mentioned). This year I want to use some of the beautiful crockery, little bowls, pretty cups and kitchen paraphernalia that I own. I also have to remind myself that a simple meal cooked with love is good enough. I am often put off as I think my cooking and entertaining skills are not 'Martha Stewartish' enough. Letting go of silly pressures and inviting people in even if they get macaroni cheese for dins (and wine of course) has to become a way of life. (*Disclaimer - if you get invited you are not allowed to judge the dust on top of the TV or the affordable plonk on offer).

Less Worrying: I can't say stop worrying all together as I know that won't happen, but I am working on banishing stupid worries. I am making sure when they pop up that I just refuse to succumbed to them. This is a tough one.

Take Breaks: When I go on holiday I often map out a myriad of activities, meeting people, shopping, seeing things and so on. This year I want to book short getaways where there is nothing to do except read and relax. I don't need much - just two nights away from the humdrum and technology.

Fulfill Promises: How often do we say things like 'we must do dinner /coffee / Skype"? How often do we not get round to planning that dinner or making that call. The other thing we do is commit time to people who are not as invested in us as we are in them. My aim is to not say things that I don't intend or want to fulfill. If I say something regarding plans or taking care of something - I want to really mean it and commit to it. Sometimes all you need is a thirty minute coffee break or a short call. I hope by only committing to people that I want to invest my time in - will mean that I can have fewer things to attend to, but more time for the people who really matter.

Spend Less Money: I am not a splurger, okay sometimes I am (always when it comes to stationery). I have trained myself to be quite good at asking myself a range of questions before I buy something. The other thing I have learnt is to enjoy using items - even the expensive ones. I am not one to keep soaps and bubble bath for twenty years! None the less, I have some really wonderful material possessions for which I am truly grateful. Besides a few things here and there I don't actually lack anything. I want to build more savings, keep my money in the bank and stick to using and finishing items before another one is bought. I want my inner thrifter to shine! (Don't worry everyone will still get nice birthday pressies, but some might be handmade.)

Don't Compare: There will always be someone with more than me... a bigger house, more money, nicer legs, glossier hair, awesome job etc. I want to ensure I am grateful for all I do have and enjoy it without the pressures of the next best thing. My circumstances are different to yours, my car might be your worst nightmare and my home might be humble, but I need to be grateful, regardless. We are all really good at comparing and complaining, let's remember how blessed we are and stop thinking about the next thing that we think will make us happy. Let's live life and be happy right now... today!

Those are a few of the main things I want to work on this year - on a personal level. Do any of these sound like changes you want to make or do you have other things that you are committing your energy to? I would love to hear more as I am sure we can inspire one another to really stick to them.

*Picture from Cuptakes

24 comments :

  1. Ah yes not comparing is a biggie... def. one on my list! Good luck for 2014

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  2. Great list. Good luck and enjoy the little breaks, less worrying and not comparing

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  3. I love your resolutions, Nadia! Most of them are my resolutions too... I realised at the end of 2013 that comparing myself to other people really puts a damper on my life (and state of mind) so I'm trying to forget about what other people have / receive / own and how good they might be at certain things because at the end of the day you are your own worst critic.

    I have also decided to spend less (especially on beauty products), and by spending less I don't necessarily mean buying cheap things, I just mean buying less things. Thinking before purchasing stuff just for the sake of buying stuff because everything just starts piling up and taking up space. A cluttered environment creates a cluttered mind (well that's the case with me).

    Anyway, enjoy the spring cleaning / organising / tidying! :) x

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  4. Ah I love this list! And am also totally on board for earlier bedtimes and more balance!
    Happy spring organising - i LOVE organising too (cleaning, not so much) haha x

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  5. Oh this is me 100% Nadia - thank you for putting my thoughts into words. I may need to pop back to read your inspiring article a few times this year to keep me on track :-)

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  6. Love all the items on the list and I need to do most of them too. I need to add disconnecting from social media sometimes and taking walks with the kids and dogs. Less worrying is a biggie for me as I am a champion worrier especially about money. I'm waiting for the kids to return to school before I dive into my sorting and cleaning - a BIG job!

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  7. Such a lovely heartfelt post and I'm so with you on every single point on your list. And particularly on not having friends over because of pressure to put on a good performance. We just need to face the reality that our homes / days / cooking will never be perfect, but it's the rich fellowship we should strive for instead. So here's to ME and YOU and hopefully our HUSBANDS too getting together for some laughs and catch-ups this year x

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  8. Hello Nadia! :) Happy New Year! ... every word taken right out of my mouth! Thank you for this honest reflection, which I find is something we can all relate to in some way. I'm so sharing this! xoxo

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  9. What a wonderful lot of resolutions. A lot of them I am also going to try and keep to. I am also at the moment spring cleaning through all my magazines. I intend to buy not such a lot anymore and rather share and exchange with family and friends and afterwards donating to an old age home. I intend also to stop all the needless worrying over the little things in live. Good luck with all your 2014 resolutions.

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  10. I've also been organizing and de-cluttering my space :) I just feel so much more prepared to start with 2014 and all my goals since i've done it. I'm also one of those people who overthinks and analyses everything - i don't think i'm ever going to be able to change that but i will try to think positive thoughts more often and to just live life. This year I approached my new year's resolutions differenly. I made a list of all my goals for the year and also completed a sentence I read in an article about the new year - it was "At the end of 2014 I want to be someone that..." It's also quite a nice way of doing it. Happy new year & good luck with your resolutions!! Xx

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  11. Thanks for the comment. Still working on the 'not comparing' resolution as it's quite tough. Happy 2014! x

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  12. Hello - thanks for the comment. Working on them. Hope you have a blessed and happy 2014! x

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  13. Hello! Thanks for your lovely blog comment & for sharing some of your own thoughts & 'life changes'. Hope your 2014 is off to a lovely start! x

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  14. Thanks for the blog comment! Hope your 2014 is off to a dazzling* start! x

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  15. Thanks so much for your comment. Happy I could put in words what you were thinking :-) Cheers to a fabulous 2014! x

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  16. Hi Nicola! Thanks so much for your lovely comment. I totally agree with the disconnecting idea - so important. Best of luck with you 2014 'life changes'. x

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  17. Thanks for the blog comment dear! I think we must make time to get together. Nothing will ever be perfect,but the good thing is we can still be happy. Sending love & happy 2014 wishes. x

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  18. Thanks so much for your comment & a happy new year to you too. Happy that you enjoyed my thoughts. Wishing you a truly wonderful 2014! x

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  19. Hi Tana. Thanks for your blog comment - I appreciate it. I hope the magazine clean is going well! Good luck with your resolutions too! Here's to a happy, balanced & worry(less) 2014. x

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  20. Hi Mieke. Thanks for the comment. I totally agree - a de-cluttered space really helps. I'm still in the midst of my clean up, but I am really enjoying it. Here's hoping we can worry less and just enjoy life a bit more. Best of luck with your 'life changes' in 2014! x

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  21. These are great things to work on - all so inspiring and all for a better and more healthier and happier you. Wishing you a magical year Nads x

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  22. Thanks friend. Wishing you a wonderful year too! I owe you an email. It is on the way. x

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  23. Hey Nadia! Gee, two of my biggies not comparing and sorting out my office! At the moment it is a desk covered with paint brushes, scrapping paper, piles and boxes of half finished projects! Not to mention the clothes horses that are still up in there from the Saturday afternoon rain... Thanks for bringing me back to reality with this honest post. Keep it up!

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